Well, the plot thickens. Today I received a nice, apologetic pm from SN (Andy) and I sent him one assuring him I can forgive and move on, but also making it clear that nothing out of line would be tolerated going forward!
That is not easy, as he went way too far when he was beating me up - but it is my mentality to give folks one more chance - i've screwed up more than once and understand getting another try, so I will now move on, try to be friends, hope he will attend Funday #3 at which time we could meet and bond properly! Neck my pal, and others, seem to feel he has much to offer!
Time to move forward and see . . . . . . . . . . . including my new pal Andy!